Loran’s Heart is filled with rainbow pompom cheers of encouragement for you to live an enchanted existence!
Before I learned some basic skills for living life, I didn’t know how to identify my feelings or communicate them; I used drugs, alcohol and food to stay numb; I had relationship problems; I didn’t appreciate my body; I felt lost, restless and rarely content.
It took me years to learn the skills I needed to increase my self-esteem, sense of inner power, resilience, and autonomy. Over time I’ve become more positive, more grateful, kinder and less judgmental.
After graduation with a Masters in Counseling, I wondered why the skills I learned weren’t taught to children from Kindergarten through high school. It’s not rocket science. I firmly believe that if children were taught basic communication and centering skills that our society would improve by leaps and bounds. Can you imagine if our leaders knew how to manage conflict without dropping bombs? Good grief, don’t get me started.
In working a program of recovery, I improved my emotional and mental health. I learned how to accept things as they are, to be responsible for my actions, decisions and thoughts, and cease blaming others for my difficulties. I know how to differentiate between what I have control over (almost nothing) and what I don’t.
Are we there yet?
This process has no end. I am not “there.” There is no “there.” The lessons of life don’t lessen! Sickness and death are an integral part of life and there is no avoiding it. Learning to understand cause and effect through the study of Buddhism has further aided me on this path of personal growth. I’m only beginning to understand the nature of reality and the nature of my mind.
My mind is still a monkey on the loose most of the time but I am acquiring the skills to manage that monkey now and then. It hasn’t been easy and it has taken a long time to get where I am today. I still struggle and some days are better than others but it’s my burning desire to help others find their way on the rocky path to a place that is more manageable, more content and less emotionally chaotic.
If I can do it, so can you. What have you got to lose? Depression? Confusion? Turmoil?
It’s a spiral journey.
I’ve spent over 30 years helping other people. I remain passionately curious about all things related to personal growth and spiritual development. Now I am sharing my knowledge and experience with women who want to learn how to grow, journal, take better care of themselves, feel happier, and create joy in their lives.
To learn more about what you will find here at Loran’s Heart, please read my Welcome message.